2 Samuel 13:1-19 CSB
1 Some time passed. David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar, and David’s son Amnon was infatuated with her. 2 Amnon was frustrated to the point of making himself sick over his sister Tamar because she was a virgin, but it seemed impossible to do anything to her. 3 Amnon had a friend named Jonadab, a son of David’s brother Shimeah. Jonadab was a very shrewd man, 4 and he asked Amnon, “Why are you, the king’s son, so miserable every morning? Won’t you tell me? ” Amnon replied, “I’m in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.” 5 Jonadab said to him, “Lie down on your bed and pretend you’re sick. When your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and give me something to eat. Let her prepare a meal in my presence so I can watch and eat from her hand.’ ” 6 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be sick. When the king came to see him, Amnon said to him, “Please let my sister Tamar come and make a couple of cakes in my presence so I can eat from her hand.” 7 David sent word to Tamar at the palace: “Please go to your brother Amnon’s house and prepare a meal for him.” 8 Then Tamar went to his house while Amnon was lying down. She took dough, kneaded it, made cakes in his presence, and baked them. 9 She brought the pan and set it down in front of him, but he refused to eat. Amnon said, “Everyone leave me! ” And everyone left him. 10 “Bring the meal to the bedroom,” Amnon told Tamar, “so I can eat from your hand.” Tamar took the cakes she had made and went to her brother Amnon’s bedroom. 11 When she brought them to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, “Come sleep with me, my sister! ” 12 “Don’t, my brother! ” she cried. “Don’t disgrace me, for such a thing should never be done in Israel. Don’t commit this outrage! 13 “Where could I ever go with my humiliation? And you — you would be like one of the outrageous fools in Israel! Please, speak to the king, for he won’t keep me from you.” 14 But he refused to listen to her, and because he was stronger than she was, he disgraced her by raping her. 15 So Amnon hated Tamar with such intensity that the hatred he hated her with was greater than the love he had loved her with. “Get out of here! ” he said. 16 “No,” she cried, “sending me away is much worse than the great wrong you’ve already done to me! ” But he refused to listen to her. 17 Instead, he called to the servant who waited on him: “Get this away from me, throw her out, and bolt the door behind her! ” 18 Amnon’s servant threw her out and bolted the door behind her. Now Tamar was wearing a long-sleeved garment, because this is what the king’s virgin daughters wore. 19 Tamar put ashes on her head and tore the long-sleeved garment she was wearing. She put her hand on her head and went away crying out.

Sermon Notes

1. The Family
2. The Loss
3. The Grief

Group or Individual Reflection

• One thing that resonated with me:
• One thing that challenged me:
• One thing I want to learn more about:
• One thing I will do:

Deeper Study
Psalm 79 is a corporate lament. Prayerfully read, meditate, and note take on Psalm 79.

• Can you discern the structure of the lament?
• What is being lamented?
• What, if anything, is their hope?

Where do you find hope in sorrow?
Reflect

• Worship: Write down one attribute of God and worship God.
• Prayer: Pray for a victim of trauma. If you don’t know anyone personally, pray for clients of Tubman.
• Remembrance: Remember a time when you experienced a great personal loss or tragedy. How did that event change you?
• Self-Examination: Do you tend to be more open or closed in your emotions?

A Kind Act
Be ready to listen to someone else’s pain.